Tuesday, March 15, 2011

you and the candles

After you make that donation, what do you do then?

For a minute or two I felt like I was doing something to help, that I was making a difference, and hopefully I was, but all too quickly it returned, that feeling that I should be doing something more, anything, to help. I guess if you were a praying person, this is when you would do so.

I am sure this feeling is being replicated a billionfold around the world.

It's best to keep busy.

As luck would have it, we have a waterlogged ice-jam, bordered by a five foot high snow bank that has nowhere to melt but into the basement. Meanwhile, the spruce trees on the other side of the yard have bare ground beneath them. I think I just had my shoulder and arm workouts for the week.

How do you cope with the helplessness that comes with not being able to fix the world?

9 comments:

leazwell said...

I've tried posting twice today about Japan but can't get my thoughts out coherently. Too much pain.

umbrellalady said...

Somehow all of our problems seem trivial when we look at the devastation that Japan is going through. All we can do from this side of the world is to donate. You have such a good heart, Barb.

Barbara Bruederlin said...

What you did post was very eloquent, Leazwell, and hopefully somewhat cathartic.

It doesn't seem enough, does it, Kathy? It feels like I'm trying for an easy fix, but of course, there's no such thing.

Allison said...

I felt the same thing too. I've been trying to focus on the minutiae to take my mind off it. Plus work and mindless data entry had kept me busy.

Wandering Coyote said...

I am so focused on my own crap right now I'm not even really thinking about Japan. If that makes me seem cold, I can live with that. I was away when the disaster struck so I feel quite far removed from it.

Is your workout area flooded? Does this mean no workouts???

L said...

It's very tough, that's for sure. There always seems to be more questions than answers. This may sound cliche, and donations are good of course, but there will always be horrible things happening and I think it's more important how we live and act every day, and not just in the immediate days following tragedy. The love and kindness we have toward those hurting every day, and just in general, is what really helps us carry on.
I know you do that, because I know you. :)

Barbara Bruederlin said...

I've been immersed in mindless work as well, Al, and it really does occupy your mind completely, strangely enough. Perhaps it's not as mindless as we think.

No, we have had no water in the basement, WC, I'm just trying to be proactive. So workouts continue.

I always appreciate your vision of the world, Lesley. Your clear-eyed vision, combined with your kind heart, never fail to give me hope. Thank you.

8:16 AM

kelly said...

Realistically, all we can do is donate if we have the means. I feel fortunate that I am able to.

The other thing you can do is prepare yourself in case of a disaster. Here on the west coast it means earthquake kits. Think that emergency workers may not be able to get to you for at least 72 hours. I don't think everybody should do this because there is a cost but I bought a generator for the house, that way if we lose power for an extended period, I don't have to worry about Robbie while I am at work and she can invite neighbours over to eat, play some games, watch a movie etc.

Also realize if it is a major event, many of the emergency workers amy not be able to respond if they are called in. Many may not be willing until their families are safe.

Barbara Bruederlin said...

That is really sound advice, Kelly, and something concrete that we can do to ease things for everyone, first responders included, in the event of an emergency. Thanks for this.