Monday, September 29, 2008

good-bye

My mom passed away yesterday.

She would have turned 87 in a couple of weeks, but in her own quietly determined way, she must have decided it was time for her to go, and she stopped eating and drinking a week ago. She passed peacefully, with my brother and his family by her side.

We are driving to Manitoba in the morning and will be gone the rest of
the week, to say our goodbyes to this unassuming but strong woman, who raised four kids to be decent people.

Even toward the end, when she spent more time in her dreams than in the waking world, she had the most incredible memory for stories from her early life, and was our conduit into a world that we never knew.

Good-bye mom. I love you.

37 comments:

beth said...

love you auntie barb, i hope you all are doing ok. have a safe trip, we'll see you soon :)

URBAN BLONDE said...

So sorry to hear your news Barb.

What a loving tribute.
Have a safe journey eastbound during this time of loving remembrance in the embrace of your family.

Warm Thoughts sent your way.

Beth said...

Oh, Barb, I'm so sorry. I lost my dad three years ago, and it still hurts — although I'm glad he no longer hurts. You've always written beautiful, eloquent posts about your mom, so I feel a bit of a loss, too. I'll be thinking of you and yours.

justrun said...

I'm so sorry to read this, Barb. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Remi said...

I am truly sorry to hear this. Have a safe trip and my thoughts are with you and your family.

mellowlee said...

I'm sorry for your loss Barb. Have a safe trip. I'll be thinking of you and your family XOX

phlegmfatale said...

Gosh, honey - my heart goes out to you. Bless you and all your family. I'll be thinking of you in the coming days.

mister anchovy said...

Very sorry to read of your mom's passing.

Bubs said...

I'm sorry for your loss. You're in our thoughts. Take care of yourself.

Sean Wraight said...

I am truly sorry to hear this Barb. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. Your post was a lovely tribute and your Mom would be very proud.

Drive safely. Our thoughts are with all of you.

Take Care

kelly said...

sorry for your loss...take care

Dr. Monkey Von Monkerstein said...

Oh sweetie, I feel for you. She was a great lady, I can tell from your words about her and plus she gave us you. You were lucky to have had her for so long and she'll always be with you. Be safe on your trip and when you come back tell us some funny stories about her, okay?

bloody awful poetry said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. Please accept my warmest sympathies, dude.I'm sure your mom was every bit as awesome as you are now. Have a safe trip. My thoughts are with you guys.

Gifted Typist said...

I hope that dreamy place she was in in those last days were full of flowers and kid's laughter.

So sorry for your loss.
Take care, Zombie

Allison said...

I'm so sorry for you and your families loss, Barb. A small amount of comfort can be gained that she passed surrounded by those who loved her. Safe travels to Manitoba.

xoxo

Barbara Bruederlin said...

Thank you so much, everyone, for your kind and thoughtful comments and emails. It is very gratifying to know that I have such caring friends, and it means more to me than I can ever express. Although my mom would wonder, as she has been known to express, why email when you can simply put a stamp on a letter?

Westcoast Walker said...

Barb - I am sorry to hear about your mom's passing. I hope you and your siblings can have some meaningful time to reflect and tell stories about what she meant to you all. My most sincere condolences to you all.

BeckEye said...

Barb, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I'm sure if your mom was anything like you, she was one rockin' lady.

Elizabeth said...

Barb, so sorry to read of your Mum's passing. You are her wonderful legacy. Our thoughts are with you all.

Love Elizabeth & Family

Anonymous said...

Oh Barb, what lovely words...thank you for saying so beautifully what I wanted to express. berni

Evelyne said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you and your family.
Take care

~Jen~ said...

Ohhh Barb...so sorry..she sounds like she was an amazing old gal...the world is a lesser place. xox

Bridget Jones said...

Oh Barbara, I am so very sorry. Am praying for all of you and thinking of you.

She must have been a wonderful lady.

((((((hugs))))))))

John Mutford said...

I'm very sorry Barb. I hope you continue to focus on the good times you had together.

justacoolcat said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you.

leazwell said...

The brain is an amazing organ. What a sweet blessing that all of you were able to share the past together.

Deb said...

My thoughts are with you and your family Barb.

She was a lovely woman and I know the pain you feel right now...those stories are treasures that you will keep with you forever. She sounds very much like my Mom, who I miss more than words can say.

Strength and love to you, my friend.

xoxo

Ruh said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you are all right, and that you all have safe travels there and back.

Barbara Bruederlin said...

Many thanks to you all for your support and sympathy. Knowing that you are there is greater help than you can imagine.

We are having the funeral this morning. We expect there to be many more people attending than we had originally anticipated, as my mom seems to have touched a lot of people in her long life.

Tomorrow we drive back home.

Thanks again for all your kind words.

Toccata said...

Raising four kids to be decent human beings, I cannot think of a better legacy or tribute. Hope you were able to find comfort with your family.

Heather said...

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Stephanie said...

I'm so sorry to hear this.
My thoughts are with you

Strawberry Blondie said...

So sorry to hear this news, Barb. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Although your tribute here is concise, it conveys a tremendous amount of love and warmth to the reader.

Moxie said...

Sorry to hear about your loss, Barb. I love that line about the email vs. a stamp. Moms just have the best sayings, don't they?

Sending good vibes your way.

Todd said...

I am sorry to hear about your loss Barb. - I hope that your trip gives you some closure/peace and that you get to connect with your family, and others who knew her, and get the chance to exchange stories about her past as she used to share with you on so many occasions. :)

Volly said...

Barbara,

Sorry to be so late with condolences. May good memories bring you comfort.

Volly

Barbara Bruederlin said...

I am so grateful for all your kind words, everyone. We returned home yesterday, and while it was a tiring and obviously sad trip, it was also wonderful to spend time with my family, reliving memories. We laughed a lot.